Road Blocks: Turn Life's Downsides into an Epic Tale
Every road block we face is passable. If you decide to let it stop you from progress, that is your fault. Whether it be a person we must move away and move on from, a job that will never pay enough, a financial situation that requires sacrifice and dedication to overcome or just getting in shape to better your health. Did we ask for these road blocks? Fuck no. But do we have to deal with them to make life everything it can be? Absolutely. So if a tree falls in your lifes highway and happiness is on the other side, its time to get out of that car and walk. Or better yet, sharpen your mental ax and go to work clearing that bitch for the people behind you.
I don't want to sound like a unsympathetic asshole, but when is the written history of our being has whining and crying gotten anyone anywhere worth mentioning in a positive sense? We all know those people who complained their way to the spot they where in and that reputation proceeds them. It may work for a little while if you are manipulative enough but in the end in will leave you alone and depressed. Once again, don't let this come off as the typical masculinity issue of "Men, don't cry!" or as a promotion that "Feelings are for whimps." Quite the contrary. Feelings are a compass to find direction and substance in your life, however there is a difference between creating a direction and leading you in circles. You are the one that has to figure this out. If you had a map or navigation system that lead you down a dead end road, are you going to sit there and hope the road magically opens for you? Or are you going to figure out a different route? Seriously, how many people do you know that are sitting in life's car on a dead end street, looking at the sign like its thee signs fault its there. Put that car in reverse and find your way to the desired destination! There is no shame in going in reverse. There is no shame in turning down the wrong road. You haven't been here before! Use it as a lesson and move on.
While beating this "Drive of life." metaphor to death, I would like to add one more thing. Enjoy the view. On road trips I am the guy, staring out the window taking in the good, the bad and the ugly. Why? Because even the memories where I was scared or angry or alone lead me to a better place. Those memories are the ones where there were things I wished I didn't have to go through, but in the end I actually think of quite fondly. I am stealing this from a Redbull snowboard series called the Book of Jon J, from an episode dedicated to the High Five Program which works to help injured athletes rehab themselves so they can enjoy the things they once did before injury. There was a man on there that used the word Epicing. He described it as the hard times that turn into great stories after we are finished. His example was oceanic paddling over great distances and getting caught in the dark. You're scared, you're alone, you are worried that you will never make it out. But in the end you do. I believe we need to apply this ideal more to the mental aspect of our journey as well. Instead of looking at hard times, whether they be finical or all mental, as a bane, look ahead when you pull through it and tell yourself "I am not struggling, I am epicing! And this one will be one for the history books."